Being a Woman - back in the days versus nowadays

Updated: Feb 25, 2020

I recently watched the movie 'Little Women' in cinema. I haven't been to the cinema in a while, but when seeing the trailer for Little Women I knew I would have to go and watch it. 

Why? Because it is about women with dreams and ambitions, who are standing up for themselves. At last eventually. After the typical challenges a woman faces.

“The world is hard on ambitious girls." —Amy March

All of this during the times of the American Civil War in the 1860s. We are now in 2020 and one would think that the world we women live in might have changed much by now. You'd be surprised at times.

Jo March - the main character, is a creative young personality, who challenges the typical image of women.

She also decided to submit her novel to a publishing company and pretends that it was her friend that wrote it. 

A typical pattern I see a lot when working with women as a coach. We do not like to 'sell ourselves' or take credit for it.

It is so much easier to speak well about somebody else's work than ours. It feels so much more comfortable to praise and give credit to others instead of ourselves.

We tend to think that we are never worth it. Let alone good enough. Who do you we think we are otherwise?

Let alone the potential rejection we would have to go through.

The moment when Jo March speaks up for herself and her novel (and not 'her friend's') and requested a fair remuneration and copyright, I felt like crying. She wanted to own her own book. And she was full of self-confidence compared to the first time she talked to the editor.

These are the moments and journey I love to watch my clients go through. I simply love watching the power and strengths come out in us women. As it is simply not a given and anything else than easy in a still (too) male dominant world.

A lot of people would perceive me as confident. And we women perceive a lot of other women as confident. And at the same time always believe we are the only ones struggling deep inside. Having self-doubts.

During our local Driven Women Goal Setting Workshop in January with 15 ambitious women in the room to work on their bigger lives, we all agreed that we always assume that everybody else is stronger than we are.

And we often forget that we are all in the same boat. Often struggling. Just wanting to be happy and most of us also successful. Whatever that definition of success might be for yourself!

“Just because my dreams are different than yours doesn’t make them unimportant.” —Meg March 

But first of all, we all need to know what we truly want actually. We are not used to look deep inside ourselves. Our authentic self. What we truly want.

We often tend to rely too much on external factors. Trying to please others. Trying to meet other people's expectations. Our family's, partner's and friend's expectations. What we think we are meant to be and do. For different reasons.

“Girls have to go out into the world and make up their own minds about things.” —Marmee

And once we know, we often don't dare to speak it out loud. We are afraid again. Afraid of the opinion of others, rejection. Being different and alone. We think we don't deserve it.

One of my favourite scenes of the movies is when Jo gets very upset about the fact that women are just so much more than just wives. Although we all have dreams and wants.

“Women, they have minds, and they have souls, as well as just hearts. And they’ve got ambition, and they’ve got talent, as well as just beauty. I’m so sick of people saying that love is all a woman is fit for.”

That they have so much more potential and rights. And yearnings. And so does Jo. And a lot of us.

So if there is one thing you are taking away from this article, then it is to believe in yourself.

And if you don't do it, I certainly do. I believe that everybody has untouched potential within that we can unlock to become the best possible version of ourselves.

My purpose is to help you on this journey and inspire you. And move you closer to your goals and dreams.

Get in touch if you would like to know more about how we can help you to become the best possible you or empower your female employees and leaders.


Katrin Sturm is the founder of The Best Possible You that focuses on personal, career and business growth.

Katrin is a renowned coach for individuals and corporates specialising in sales and leadership as well as career and personal development. She also advises start-ups to scale-ups.

As a retreat leader, Katrin hosts Digital Detox Retreats with yoga, nature walks & hiking and mind coaching.

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